My First Article of Psychotherapy

             WORKING WITH COUPLES

By Jennifer Spinner LCSW, MSW, SAP

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In my private practice I often work with couples engaged in conflict.  The biggest obstacle for couples is to learn respect, validation, and understanding.  Psychotherapy can bring two people closer together by teaching them important communication skills.

Listening skills can be learned.  People can do exercises as homework to become more aware of the needs of their partner.  In so doing, both people can feel a stronger connection.  Couples can ultimately feel a bond that is healthier and they experience a deeper love. 

One very common and painful issue in couple’s   therapy is infidelity.  Often, one partner is shocked that the other would be unfaithful.  It is hoped by both parties that the pain of hurting the other would override the primitive desire for sex with a third party.  Unfortunately, this is often not the case.

The emotional hurt and trauma suffered in these instances can be overcome.  Psychotherapy helps people find what went wrong in the first place, so this experience need not occur in the future.  Falling in love involved someone giving all their trust to another.  When this trust is broken, the party who was unfaithful must understand that the pain of their partner is the result of the deep extent of the love this partner has for them.  Once two people understand the true extent of the love they have for each other, they have a greater appreciation of their relationship.  This can happen in therapy.

When love for one person is taken for granted by the other person, this love may dwindle.  People can avoid taking each other for granted by finding some quality time to share. Being “just the two of us” every day is very important.  Even if it this involves only a half hour of holding hands, this time is essential.  It must involve no TV, friends, work, movies, etc…only quiet quality time amongst two people.  This is a way of healing any hurt that may have occurred during the previous 24 hours.    

Imago therapy, developed by Dr. Hendrix, is just one of the tactics I use in therapy to help couples heal their relationship, and become more sensitive to one another.  I am excited to work with any couple.

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